MUM-OF-TWO Gemma Nice, 42, from Brighton, challenged husband Darren, 47, to a romp-a-thon to see whose libido was highest…
So who came out on top?
It’s a well-trodden theory that blokes have the highest sex drives and it’s even been claimed they think about doing the deed every seven seconds.
But me, like many women that I meet through my work as a sex and relationships coach, would definitely disagree and argue that our libidos are just as high, if not higher.
I’m confident that I love sex just as much as my husband of 24 years, Darren.
To put that to the test, I challenged him to a ‘sex war’, which involved us having as much nookie as possible daily until one of us reached the point of saying, ‘Nooooo-h more!’
From outdoor romps to quickie sofa sessions and a VERY juicy incident with a banana, here’s how we got on…
Day 1: 15-minute 5am quickie
It’s 5:30am on the first morning and I lean over to Darren with a smile on my face.
‘Shall we get started?’ I ask, and discover he’s been awake since 5am thinking about sex.
I suddenly feel the odds to win this war are stacked in his favour if it’s on his mind this early.
We squeeze in a 15-minute quickie and we both climax, probably due to the excitement of our ‘war’ being officially underway.
We’re off to a good start and I’m sure I will win, but Darren is adamant he has more in the tank than me.
That’s all we can manage today as we’re too tired when we finally get a bit of peace from the kids at 9:30pm.
It seems even with something as exciting as this, the stresses of everyday life can still put a dampener on things.
Day 2: Intimate shower session
Generally, our sex life has always been good, but kids, jobs and everyday life has had an impact.
Pre-kids we had sex three to four times a week and we’ve been spontaneous and adventurous from the moment we first met. We’ve both always been into sex and have always had a very healthy sex life.
Today however we’ve been up since 3:30am with our daughter so our tiredness has increased.
Despite that, I initiate a quick five-minute session after a shower.
We both enjoy, even though I don’t climax and Darren does.
Day 3: Two-minute thrill
It’s Saturday so much harder to fit anything in around the children but Darren initiates sex in bed first thing in the morning.
Then I initiate our second session of the day after I get out of the shower while both children are downstairs playing.
It only lasts two minutes but we both climax quickly because of the fear of a child bursting in.
Day 4: Steamy sofa romp
These days, we generally have sex about once or twice a week and who instigates it depends on the time of day, and month.
Darren loves mornings and I like it during the day, and if I’m ovulating Darren says I give off a ‘come to bed’ scent.
Today, Darren initiates sex downstairs on the sofa and we have a good session that lasts for over 30 minutes before we both climax.
We then have another 20-minute session straight after.
We try lots of different positions on and off the sofa – our longest session in the competition so far and I feel really happy and elated although tired. We’re both really into the experiment now and excited to be doing it to see where it leads to.
Day 5: Juicy antics with a banana
I’m up early this morning to go to the gym, however Darren meets me there as a surprise and we decide to do it in the car on a country lane.
We both climax during this quick and exciting session.
Later that evening Darren initiates again and we have sex for 30 minutes.
We try using food for the first ever time, getting a banana and squishing it between our bodies.
I wasn’t sure at first but we both really enjoy this and the feel of it really gets us going.
We both climax and notice our orgasms are getting more intense because we’re having sex multiple times a day.
Day 6: Tree-mendous time in the woods
I’m home from teaching my yoga class by 10am and Darren’s already waiting in the car for me.
He suggests having sex outside so we drive to the woods, go for a walk and he surprises me by pushing me up against a tree.
We have sex fully clothed, there’s no one around and it’s really exciting.
I don’t climax but Darren does and he says he’ll make me climax later on.
Later, Darren pulls me from my desk and walks me to the kitchen before lifting me onto the kitchen counter near the washing machine.
We’ve never done it there before and I climax twice, it’s amazing.
Later on that evening, I’m practising yoga naked and doing the plough pose – which involves inverting my body and bringing my feet over my head – to entice Darren.
He gets excited and we do quite a few positions and sex lasts 45 minutes, both of us climaxing.
Day 7: Work from h-oooooh-me
I set the alarm for 5:30am and we have sex for 30 minutes before the kids come in at 6:20am.
At lunchtime Darren initiates sex by coming into the home office with some lube and we have sex on the office chairs.
We both orgasm.
Day 8: Buzzing for it!
I initiate sex straight after work – we don’t have long as we have the school run so we have a quickie in the office and we both climax.
Darren initiates sex in bed at 9:30pm by leaving my vibrator on my bedside table for me while he’s in the shower.
When he comes out, I’m playing with it. We both orgasm, but don’t have full sex.
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Day 9: Foreplay fatigue
Darren initiates foreplay on the sofa after the morning school run and I have another orgasm which leads to sex.
We’re finding that we’re struggling to go longer than 30 minutes in our sex sessions now.
I initiate a quickie after I get out of the shower just before dinnertime but then the children shout us so we have to stop.
Day 10: Losing my libido
I set my alarm for before 6am this morning and we have a quick session but I’m feeling a bit sore.
Darren climaxes after 20 minutes, but I don’t.
Day 11: Naked cuddles
I initiate sex on the sofa this evening but neither of us are really in the mood so we just have a naked cuddle and a little play and neither of us climax.
We both feel really tired and we’re getting slightly sick of having sex every day. We still enjoy the feel of each other but sometimes you just want to be on your own and we’re getting to that point now!
Day 12: Not tonight, darling!
I never thought I’d admit defeat but enough is enough!
I’ve now reached the point where I am ready for a break.
Darren initiates sex first thing this morning but I tell him I want to stop the ‘sex war’ now.
I admit defeat, we laugh and enjoy a cuddle but sex is off limits this time!
Great sex-pectations: My verdict
Overall I’ve had 13 orgasms and Darren has had 15 and he has initiated ten sex sessions whilst I’ve initiated nine – although they didn’t all end up with us finishing sex.
We’re pretty even on the score and obviously just as horny as the other.
It definitely made us more fun in the bedroom – and all over the house really.
The same things that sometimes cause barriers in our everyday sex life were still there like children and tiredness, but we made it work.
The experiment has made us think about spicing things up a bit more and we will keep going to different places to have sex.
I know I’m a competitive person but it turns out I’m not quite as competitive as Darren – I’m OK with that because it’s made us closer than ever.
Bedder believe it! Darren’s verdict
I’m pleased that I won the sex war – it’s been a great few days and we’ve had loads more sex than normal.
Mostly I’ve enjoyed the spontaneity of it. Normally we schedule sex but it’s been much more ‘off the cuff’ and I’ve loved every minute of it!
