I’ve been with my older boyfriend for seven months and he still won’t tell people about me

DEAR DEIDRE: I CAN’T be certain that my boyfriend loves me because he won’t let me be open about our relationship.

I wanted to announce that we are together on my Instagram and Facebook pages. He’s 45 and I’m a woman of 28.

We had a gorgeous photo taken at my friend’s wedding. But as soon as I asked whether I could put it up as my status, my boyfriend went mad, saying he “might be recognised”.

He said I couldn’t advertise us as being an item. His sons are nearly the same age as me.

I finally met his brother. After that, I told my boyfriend that I loved him and paused, waiting for him to say he loved me. But he said, “I’m not there yet”.

We’ve been together for seven months but I don’t know how much longer I should wait for some sort of commitment.

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But that said, seven months is a long time to be somebody’s secret. It’s not a nice feeling.

Because you’re hanging in limbo, find a moment to ask him outright whether he sees a future with you.

If he does, he has to let you into the side of his life which you know little about.

Your age difference may be throwing up doubts for him. If this is the case, my support pack called Age Gaps – Do They Matter? will help you to tackle a conversation about it.